Lies and More Lies

I find it interesting that some adopted persons think that adoption is solely, totally, and unequivocally about them alone.  So, my thought to them is this.... Where do you think you came from?  A machine?  Cool... then you can take away my pain.

Just a thought about the lies told, by adoptees, as much as adopters.

For all of those that think it doesn't matter.....

Adoption is filled with bs like how blood/dna doesn't matter.  I spent years trying to explain it... but here is a link to an article by an Adoptive Father - I give him credit, he is an ADOPTIVE PARENT.....

Not One Bit Different

Sometimes you have to step up and realize that it is different - not better or worse and history and love create bonds.

An Adoptee Can Tell You......

An adoptee can tell you things you would not believe... not from me or another mother..... here is one you might want to know:

Muzik:  A beautiful adoptee that has recently reunited and has her own mind and life.  She writes about her search and journey and how adoption affected her.

Check out her "10 Reasons"

[Birth Mother,] First Mother Forum: How adoption agencies 'turn' vulnerable women into spokespeople for relinquishing

[Birth Mother,] First Mother Forum: How adoption agencies 'turn' vulnerable women into spokespeople for relinquishing

This young woman found out what being a birthmother really means.  How mothers are used to feed a giant machine.  I find it interesting that this occurs in the years after Roe v. Wade and people still assume that somehow adoption became something different after 1975.

Read on and learn......

Shared on FB - Really Good Sources!

A lot of soon to be single moms panic - it's natural.  All the "crap" that goes with not having the dad be the husband is often one of the scariest parts of pregnancy.  Here is a really great link to information on a real basis:

Pregnant and Single?

Lost Daughters: Reunion? Not really.

Lost Daughters: Reunion? Not really. This is something I have attempted to "verbalize" a number of times. The idea that we are perpetually in "reunion" rather than reunited seems to stunt the lives of mothers and adoptees.

Musings of the Lame: Life as a Birthmother: Why Adoption Kool-Aid Tastes so Good!

When people tell me that adoption has changed since the BSE, I always have to wonder exactly how it has changed. After all, yes, we weren't shipped off to unwed mother's homes - but we were, in a lot of cases, taken out of our schools and put in the schools for unwed mothers - away from all the normal teenagers that don't get pregnant. But there is so much more to it. I was given this link and while it covers a lot, as always, there is so much more! Please read and enjoy the Musings of the Lame: Life as a Birthmother: Why Adoption Kool-Aid Tastes so Good!